We are constantly dealing with members who are downright mean and offensive. Angry and bitter at the world. A member gets a virtual kiss from a member of the same sex,  and not being gay, emails the support staff, angry and accusing the support staff of it being our fault.

Hey sometimes people send VK’s to the members of the same sex just seeing what will happen and not worrying if the person is gay or straight. sometimes it’s a scammer that got by us in the first place just trying to make sme sort of contact with anyone in order to try to scam money. what ever the situation is, be careful. Be they scammers or angry people, just be careful.

We have a small staff here, and sometimes it really can get to a person the offensive emails and abusive language. We’ve be the longest running HIV+ dating service around, for more than 13 years. People email us hoping we go bankrupt, or something terrible happens to us and sometimes they attack us personally. Most of the time we just say thank you and move on. We’ve had to let one employee go for responding in a manner that, while we understand why he did it, we still couldn’t have them on here anymore.

We started out as an HIV+ Dating service for heterosexuals only, when we first started. Then the gay community started asking if they could post ads on here as well, and at first we weren’t sure what to do. We decided that anyone who is HIV+ or has AIDS is allowed to post here and we changed the verbage. Now this is just a dating service for HIV+ Individuals. One customer either misread the email we sent them, or they were just another angry person, but they responded with an email saying they were tired of how gays were treated as second class and this and that. We had to try to tell this person they probably read the email wrong. Eventually we had to ask this person to go to another dating site as he was just causing trouble for the support staff.

Either way, just be careful out there with whom you choose to date. You just never know who you are going to meet, and meet in a public place.

Be sure to check out our new sister site exclusively for the gay community. www.gayhivpoz.com

Have a great day!

Support.

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We are Finalists!

The 2009 iDate Awards!
Please go HERE

To place your Vote for us.A t the Bottom for:
Best Up and Coming Dating Site
Best Marketing Campaign

Anyone Can Vote

Please Vote For Us

We made it! We are finalists in the 2010 Internet Dating Awards.

Best Up and Coming Dating Site and Best Marketing Campaign.

Best Marketing campaign is not spamming people and optimizing our site for the search engines so that you can find us better and easier.

Wow are we ever stoked! Thank you to our members for making us the Best, in our eyes WE AR the best!

Thank You,

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Ladies, there are some things that you should never do while engaging in an online relationship with a man.  These things will most definitely put a quick and decisive end to any further communications with him.

If chatting online or via email be sure not to write your life story.  Keep it short and sweet until he asks for details, then provide him with details; but only answer the questions he asks.

If he asks how many siblings you have, he’s NOT asking for the details of your interactions with them.  He really just wants to know how many brothers or sisters you have. If you have 2, then say you have 2 (or whatever is correct in your case) and then ask him how many he has.

For every question he asks you, ask one of him, don’t make him struggle to have a conversation with you. When a guy struggles to have a conversation with a woman, it’s a huge turn off, and it can send the wrong signal. It might make him think you aren’t interested in him. Another thing that turns a man off is a long- winded woman who doesn’t know when to be quiet, or even more so, one who doesn’t know how to listen.

Never, ever, EVER lie to a man.

I really believe that lies will catch up with you sooner or later.  Many women (and men) lie about their age, marital status, employment, height, weight and a few other things in their online profiles.  That is a huge mistake.

If you find a man who you are really interested in, he will find out you lied and what trust he had for you will fly right out the window, so to will any possibility of the relationship moving forward.  So, just be honest and be REAL.  There is someone out there who will like you, even love you, for exactly the person you are.

Don’t be too eager.

This makes you look desperate and it really puts a man off.  They are first and foremost conquerors and if getting the person of their desires to like them too is just too easy, they will quickly lose interest.  I don’t mean play “hard-to-get”, but don’t push for a face-to-face meeting right away.  Don’t email them or IM them too frequently either, but also don’t seem uninterested.  Play it safe and play it cool, because you want to be safe, than sorry.

Have a Great Day.

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I’ve decided to put a blog here for updates and just general rambling. I’ve been running this site for 13+ years now. Well not this exact URL, but i started the worlds first HIV+ dating site, 13 years ago. It was born of a broken heart and the fact that there was no dating services for HIV+ individuals. I think there were some or something for the gay community, but there was nothing for the heterosexual community. So that what I did, I started the worlds first HIV+ Heterosexual dating service.

After a while people started asking me if they could be on it who were gay. At first I balked, but then in asking why the person replied there was no dating site for HIV+ Gay people either. That’s when I said OK, I make it all sexual preferences. I exclude no one. That’s when things went big. I realized there was a need for the whole HIV+ community, and that’s were I decided this would be my personal labor of love. This HIV+ dating Site, for HIV Positive Singles.

At first I hand coded the website, adn people used to email their profiles and pictures directly to me, and then I found the beauty of CGI, and I made it almost automatic. I didn’t figure out how to upload and attach a picture but people could come and put up a profile, and I didn’t need to be there to do it. It was automatic.

I soon realized there were these things called Nigerian Scammers. Yeah boy, was I surprised but I guess we were all virgins at one time or another right? I had someone email me, yelling at me, saying that I owed him several hundreds of dollars because someone he met on my site scammed him out of money. Basically a scammer got a hold of him, told him she loved him and needed money to come fly to him. He unwittingly sent it. And never heard from her again.

That was my first experience with a scammer or someone who had been scammed. and to him I am sorry, but it is not my responsibility to make sure you don’t send someone on the net money. I have however placed FAQs and other useful information pages up and a page specifically about scammers and spammers.

Ok I need to do soem work on the site and get some excercise in today. I will be posting a new one later.

Ciao…

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