How to Write a Good Dating Site Profile

By Support Staff on February 5, 2010

How to Write a Good Dating Site Profile

First impressions are vital but most people can’t help but make a snap judgement in the first few seconds of meeting someone. With online dating, this is amplified because it is easy to dismiss a dating profile which doesn’t grab your attention (or one which grabs it in the wrong way!)

While it is easy to make mistakes when you’re new to online dating, like using old clichés on your profile or posting  photos that don’t represent the current you, if you read these top tips on online dating profiles, you are far more likely to get a better start and more responses.

Your Photo’s

Use photos which are clear and well lit and show you smiling in front of a pleasant background are most likely to bring interest from people on online dating sites. A green and leafy park or an interesting place which could present an initial talking point are good choices for backgrounds. Grey concrete walls, offices or your bedroom are not so ideal. Also, it is best not to take your own profile picture – it can look as though you have no friends to do it for you!

What to write?

There are so many dating profile pages that it seems a tall order to come across as genuinely original and witty. However, if you steer away from some of the over-used catchphrases and clichés, your profile is far more likely to generate interest.

Examples of online dating profile page cliches:

‘I am happy spending a night on the sofa with a bottle of wine and a good movie’. Who isn’t? This doesn’t really say much about you being original, because it is too generic. Be more specific about your interests.

‘I’ve never done this before’ – the subtext behind this statement is that you that you’re insecure or see online dating as a little weird. Remember – people reading your profile are also dating online, it is best not to come across as too skeptical or too cautious about online dating.

‘My friend persuaded me join this site’ – why? – because you would never have done such a thing on your own? Once again – people reading this are also dating online, so it’s important not to alienate them by making it sound like you were reluctant to try online dating by yourself.

‘Hi, my name is Amy and I’m 32’. If this is your opening paragraph then it’s not exactly going to stand out amongst other profiles. Try to start with something that gives a real insight into you as a person, as opposed to straight facts.

Check it through carefully

If your profile page has mistakes, this can have some fairly long-lasting consequences. An example of this is a dating site user who wanted to make a point that he was Egyptian. After weeks of few responses, he took another look at his dating profile, only to discover he had accidentally implied he was only interested in “dating Egyptians”. Once the mistake was corrected, he had a lot more success!

After reading this and you think you are ready, fill your online dating profile out here and get a free month at http://www.hivpoz.net

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Flirting Tips for men or women

By Support Staff on January 15, 2010

Flirting Tips for men or women

Want to know why nice guys struggle to attract women? The problem can be that nice guys sometimes come off as a little too nice and have no idea how to use flirting tips for guys. Think about how you interact with women and let them know you find them attractive. For guys who take the “pal” approach they interact with a woman by becoming just another girlfriend. Their “girlfriend” shares all her personal secrets inviting him into her every thought and emotion. Even discussing with him past sexual experiences and giving him updates on the guy, she is currently dating.

For the nice guy this is sheer torture! Being forced to hear romantic details about the girl he is secretly in love with but did not have the courage or ability to let her know. If he had been aware of flirting tips for guys, he would have been able to avoid being placed in the friend zone.

If you end up being placed in the friend zone of a girl you want to have sex with you have committed the cardinal sin of dating, allowing yourself to confuse being friendly with a woman and being intimate with her. Of course, to sleep with a girl you have to be able to communicate some information with her and carry on a conversation. When this communication progresses to the point where you are going shopping together and she invites you over for teatime you have let things get way off track guys!

Set the boundaries

With flirting tips for guys, you firmly establish how you want a woman to see you within the first minutes of meeting her. When guys are placed in the friend zone, it is because they failed to show a sexual interest in a woman. If you meet a woman and are friendly but make no moves, she has no reason to think you have a sexual interest in her. If you touch her check, lean into her when she talks, stare into her eyes and give her compliments she is aware that you want something more than a friendship.

Use flirting tips for guys that show off the alpha attitude

There is a reason nice guys are placed in the friend zone but never the rocker, rapper or bad boy. It is all about the vibe they put off, shown in the way they carry themselves. Men are meant to dominate women, this simply means being the type of man who is confident, secure in himself and does not allow women or other men to pull his strings or treat him like a puppet.

Become more alpha in your behaviors by recognizing you deserve to have sex with your best friend. Never let a woman run over you or talk down too you. Instead use flirting tips for men to show masculinity in your walk, the way you speak and the body language you use when out with women.

Have an adventurous personality

Guys who get the girls are willing to be bold, be aggressive and are unable to pin down. If you are the type of guy who follows a rigid schedule, never takes a chance and always heads out at the same time every night to the same club and keeps hitting on the same type of girl you are guaranteeing your own failure.

Guess what guys there is no ONE perfect type of girl. Instead of always hitting on the pale skin blonde haired and blue-eyed girl, ask out the perky brunette instead or go to a different hang where you are sure to run across different types of women.

A club in a different neighborhood, an after hours bookstore, responding to a flyer talking about a local festival, hobbyist clubs, conventions, fairs and conferences increase your chances of connecting with single women. Even responding to an ad in the newspaper or searching for girls online are great ways of meeting new women.

Come out of the friend zone

Once a guy is placed in the friend zone it is not a death trap, flirting tips for guys can show men how to break out of the friend zone and get back to potential lover status. The girl you want already considers you her friend so take advantage of this relationship; ask her out for an evening with just the two of you. Take her to an upscale restaurant or party, allowing the perfect atmosphere to create intimacy between you both. Be sure to compliment her throughout the night, make and hold eye contact, smile in her direction and make her feel like she is the only woman in the room.

Check out the The MatchBook Method

Works on Dating Sites as well…

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Offensive Members

By Support Staff on January 15, 2010

We are constantly dealing with members who are downright mean and offensive. Angry and bitter at the world. A member gets a virtual kiss from a member of the same sex,  and not being gay, emails the support staff, angry and accusing the support staff of it being our fault.

Hey sometimes people send VK’s to the members of the same sex just seeing what will happen and not worrying if the person is gay or straight. sometimes it’s a scammer that got by us in the first place just trying to make sme sort of contact with anyone in order to try to scam money. what ever the situation is, be careful. Be they scammers or angry people, just be careful.

We have a small staff here, and sometimes it really can get to a person the offensive emails and abusive language. We’ve be the longest running HIV+ dating service around, for more than 13 years. People email us hoping we go bankrupt, or something terrible happens to us and sometimes they attack us personally. Most of the time we just say thank you and move on. We’ve had to let one employee go for responding in a manner that, while we understand why he did it, we still couldn’t have them on here anymore.

We started out as an HIV+ Dating service for heterosexuals only, when we first started. Then the gay community started asking if they could post ads on here as well, and at first we weren’t sure what to do. We decided that anyone who is HIV+ or has AIDS is allowed to post here and we changed the verbage. Now this is just a dating service for HIV+ Individuals. One customer either misread the email we sent them, or they were just another angry person, but they responded with an email saying they were tired of how gays were treated as second class and this and that. We had to try to tell this person they probably read the email wrong. Eventually we had to ask this person to go to another dating site as he was just causing trouble for the support staff.

Either way, just be careful out there with whom you choose to date. You just never know who you are going to meet, and meet in a public place.

Be sure to check out our new sister site exclusively for the gay community. www.gayhivpoz.com

Have a great day!

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We made it, 2010 iDate Awards Finalist

By Support Staff on December 1, 2009

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We are Finalists!

The 2009 iDate Awards!
Please go HERE

To place your Vote for us.A t the Bottom for:
Best Up and Coming Dating Site
Best Marketing Campaign

Anyone Can Vote

Please Vote For Us

We made it! We are finalists in the 2010 Internet Dating Awards.

Best Up and Coming Dating Site and Best Marketing Campaign.

Best Marketing campaign is not spamming people and optimizing our site for the search engines so that you can find us better and easier.

Wow are we ever stoked! Thank you to our members for making us the Best, in our eyes WE AR the best!

Thank You,

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Online Dating Advice: Ask the Right Questions First

By Support Staff on November 5, 2009

Online Dating: Ask the Right Questions First

OK.  So you’ve joined an online dating service and written an awesome profile.  You’ve uploaded a great picture and now you’ve gotten a few emails, and you’re getting ready to respond.  But what now?  How do you start weeding through those responses who have real potential and those who would be a waste of time?

You need to find out about who this strange person really is and not what they want you to believe they are.  It would be great if people wore labels like “Gold Digger”, “Daddy’s girl” or  “Scam Artist” etc., but they don’t. So it’s up to you to find out these things and you can’t just ask direct questions.  You need to know what mistakes you can avoid making and how to impress this person if you decide you want to do that.

After you get past the initial small talk, ask them “What are the biggest mistakes guys/girls make when dating online?”  Listen carefully to the answers.  Their going to tell you a lot about themselves and their views in general, probably more than you asked for, but you will find out a lot.

Next you should ask them, “What do you really think about online dating?”  Now they will usually tell you if they’ve had any bad experiences with dating online and help you to avoid making the same mistakes as previous dates.

Now for the all-important question, ”What caused the break up in your last relationship?”  If he/she puts all the blame on the other person, you should probably move on to the next prospect.  If he/she takes all the blame him or herself, you should probably do the same.  If he/she says the breakup was by mutual consent or that the relationship just wasn’t right for either of them, you’ve heard the right answer.  Move forward but always with caution.

People who Place All the Blame, may not be willing or capable of looking at themselves or their part in the situation. So you would be dating someone who “Has no faults” or is clueless about themselves or having an open and honest mind. People who Take All the Blame can have low self esteem issues and probably don’t see the situation for the way it really was, and probably have a distorted sense of self.

Asking the right questions will give you insight, possibly open your own eyes and make you more confident when you meet the person for the first time.

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True Love Real People and Kilobytes, an eBook about Dating

By Support Staff on October 30, 2009

A friend of ours, Sebastyne, has given us a little gift. An eBook about dating on the internet. We would like to graciously present it to all of our members for free, and you can download it here:eBook.

Please stop by Sebastynes and give her some feedback and thanks…

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The Best Internet Dating Sites – How do I find them?

By Support Staff on October 24, 2009

The Best Internet Dating Sites – How do I find them?

With the explosion of online dating sites has come a virtual “all you can eat buffet” of choices. There are free dating sites, which I don’t recommend but if money is an issue, they are better than nothing. There are the large “Corporation” paid dating sites with many features such as chat, IM and even matchmaking services for profiles.

There are the “more affordable” paid sites with just a few features, and then there are the “special interest” sites. Sites for almost any kind of person you can think of: outdoor and athletic, couch potatoes, religious dating, non-religious dating, gays and lesbians dating. You name it, it’s probably out there. So what’s a person to do with all these choices?

How to choose the site or sites that best fits my needs?

Here are some things to consider when looking for the Best Internet Dating Sites:

(1)    Cost. How much do you want to spend? or how much can you spend each month for your membership or memberships?

(2)    Features. What features are most important to you?

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How To Online Flirt – Online Flirting, a New Artform

By Support Staff on October 14, 2009

How To Online Flirt – Online Flirting, a New Artform

Many of the same things work for online flirting that work for “Offline” flirting and all relationships begin with successful flirting.  Flirting is an art that requires oozing confidence without being OTT(Over The Top).  If you go too far, they will label you as “slimy”.  If you don’t go far enough, they will label you “wimpy”.  So how do you achieve that point half way between slimy and wimpy and do it online without using eye contact or body language?  All you have is a computer, an internet connection and a membership in an online dating site, right?  Listen up! Learning How To Online Flirt is Simple!

1.    Have fun!  Be light-hearted, funny and entertaining.  Make them eager to talk to you again.  Flirting is playful.

2.    You have to Ooze with confidence.  Successful flirts have a positive outlook on life.  You need to transmit the “feel good” factor.  An optimistic attitude attracts partners like honey attracts Bees.  Feeling good is addictive!

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Quality Dating Profiles and Quality People

By Support Staff on October 10, 2009

We’ve stated before that the quality of the profiles written on our site was going to be going up. It’s funny how people don’t read the fine print. When someone registers for this site they receive an email with the guidelines for quality and profiles.

We get an occasional email from an angry person because we didn’t post their profile that said “will do later” or some other short non descriptive couple of words. We also get an occasional email from someone who appreciates what we do for them. Appreciative of the fact that we are even here for people with HIV to date and find others to communicate with.

We received this angry email the other day:

“it doesnt matter what you think my profile should be its the way it is and that it, if you dont like then fuckin cancel the mofo either way I could careless”

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Dating Profile Writing – Tell them what you want

By Support Staff on October 9, 2009

So you’ve joined an online dating service or two, and now you must write that all-important profile. You know the one that will attract lots of attention and reel in the man of your dreams, but the question is where do you start? Maybe writing isn’t something you think you do all that well, but even so, you can do this; you’ve got to do this.

First and foremost you need to be absolutely honest about yourself. If you are looking for that man who will like you, maybe love you, this part is essential. Examine your past relationships and list the things that you liked and the things you didn’t like, the deal makers and the deal breakers.

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